A Life of Priorities
How to Balance all Your Relationships and Responsibilities
Putting Jesus first in all your relationships and responsibilities will allow us to properly live out all other relationships and responsibilities.
How many things compete for your time and attention? You have school, military training, friendships, and family back home. How do you balance all your relationships and responsibilities?
There are times when our commitments, priorities, and relationships come into conflict and we have to choose what is most important. How we manage those choices lays the foundation for how we live. Let’s see what Jesus said about the subject of commitment and priorities.
“Anyone who loves his father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; anyone who loves his son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.” – Matthew 10:37
“If anyone comes to Me, and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be My disciple.” – Luke 14:26
The term love verses hate does not reflect an emotional view of a person, but in context of the gospels means choosing verse rejecting something for my priority relationship.
Why do you think Christ wants us to love Him more than even our closest relationships?
One cannot have two number-one loves. Jesus states, “No one can serve two masters, for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to one and despise the other” (Matthew 6:24).
How do we live out this utmost relationship with Jesus?
Think about the Great Commandment:
“Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?” And he said to him, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the great and first commandment. And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” (Matthew 22:36–39)
We are to love God with all our being; we immerse all we are in loving God our creator, and then we can love others as we ourselves are loved by God. He is our number-one relationship, and He affects all other relationships.
Instead of arranging how you manage your relationships and responsibilities like this:
- School or Work
Try arranging how you live out your relationships and responsibilities like this:
My Relationship with Jesus is first in every area of my life.
List out some of your relationships and responsibilities.
What would it look like to make Christ first in that relationship or responsibility? What does Jesus teach me about how I should live out that area of my life?
Here are some example areas of life and questions to guide you in putting Jesus first in that area:
- Friends – How does Jesus want me to treat my friends? How can I express love to those around me?
- Military Training – How does Jesus want me to respond to my superiors? How can I have a heart that reflects the Justice of God?
- School – How does Jesus want me to respond to my teachers? How can I be a good steward of my education?
- Church – How does Jesus want me to worship Him with others? How does Jesus want me to serve other disciples of Jesus.
- Campus – How does Jesus want me to bear witness to those around me?
- Head – Understands that putting Jesus first in every area of life will deepen your ability to live out all other relationships and responsibilities.
- Heart – Convinced that Jesus deserves to be first love and desires to know Him more everyday.
- Hand – Seeks God’s word to know what Jesus says about living out all other relationships and responsibilities.
Dr. Preston is the national director of Valor, Cru’s ministry to cadets, midshipmen, and veterans on college campuses. He is a member of the Fightin’ Texas Aggies Corps of Cadets class of 1988. For twenty-five years, he has helped prepare men and women to be on mission in the military and beyond. David and his wife, Laura, live in College Station, TX.